Since my blog is housed in WordPress, what people search for on my site is saved and I can go back and look over what my fellow witches are in search for. Recently one of these lovely souls asked “Where would a new witch find a mentor?” This is a very good question for those who found their path on their own and want some help along the way.
Finding Your Mentor
Let me start off with, you find your mentor by connecting with someone and believing you can learn something from them and they you. At first you will think you have nothing to offer but, trust me, every novice can offer his or her opinion and help a ‘more advanced’ witch with their practice because, sweetheart, we are all learning and the learning never stops. But there is always a risk of finding a crazy one; one who doesn’t take kindly to discussion of differences in practice and believes their way if the only way. It is true their way is right, for them but every witch practices differently and there is nothing wrong with that. Basically if your gut says it feels right, research that topic a bit, and when you are comfortable, give it a try.
But this process is not something you should ever rush so don’t post an wanted ad’s or anything silly like that. It’s one of those situations when you feel someone would be a good mentor for you, you’ll just know but that doesn’t mean that every other witch you meet will be that person. Sometimes you won’t meet them for years and for others, you’ll already have someone in mind, every situation is different, and that’s what makes this path exhilarating.
What does a Mentor do?
Every mentor will teach you differently but their place is to guide you along your path, give you that boost of confidence when you need it, and introduce you to the basics of the craft sprinkled with their personal experience and advice. Some will tell you everything you need to know, while others will make you buckle down and research what you are asking help for. But the relationship should be one of mutual respect and general caring for the other. This is never supposed to be an abusive or pupil and teacher ‘You always listen to me!’ relationship so if it turns into that, get on out.
How do I ask someone to be my mentor?
This is the easiest question yet, the secret is you just ask! If they also feel that connection with you then they will say yes but some may not feel it or may not have the confidence yet to be anyone’s mentor so if they say no, don’t take it personally. You’re fabulous and will find who you are meant to find. And trust me, you will have more than one throughout your life so expect to meet a couple.
I hope this helps all of you and if you have anymore questions, you have but to ask!
Blessings & Love,